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Talking to Kids About Sex Scandals

By Liz Perle
March 13, 2008

Talking to Kids About Sex Scandals


Talking to Kids About Sex Scandals
Q: The Eliot Spitzer scandal is everywhere. How do I explain it to my kids?

A: Talk about a "teachable moment"! But what can you say to kids at different ages? Try our age-based tips: 1. Always consider your kids\' age and stage.

2. For the youngest children, chances are it may go completely over their head. Turn the news off at dinner or when they\'re around, and don\'t bring it up. If they\'re younger than 8, you can simply say that the governor is resigning because he did a bad thing that was against the law. They may not follow up from there.

3. Be prepared for elementary school kids to ask what a prostitute is. If your kids don\'t know the facts of life yet, you can simply answer that it\'s a person paid to go on a date. If they do, you might want to explain that some women get paid for having sex, that it\'s against the law, it\'s dangerous, and it\'s not healthy. Reassure your kids that this isn\'t a part of your life or the life of anyone you know.

4. For middle school kids and teens, use the incident as a way to talk about your own values, the responsibility of public office, and how the choices we make have consequences. Any kid who\'s seen Law & Order: SVU will be able to handle a discussion about prostitution and its legal consequences. And it\'s a good way to talk about double standards, hypocrisy, and accountability.

5. With high schoolers, ask about images of prostitutes in the media. What do teens think about paying for sex? What do they think the consequences are? And what do they think about "victimless crimes"?


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